AS SALAM ALAIKUM WARAMATULLAH WABARAKATU
The Prophet (S.A.W) said:
“Allah the most High said: ‘I am as MY slave thinks (expects) I am. [Sahih Bukhari]. (click for commentaries).
This Hadith illustrates that Islam promotes having positive mindset. Applying this principle to the creation of Allah (S.W.T) helps us to think positive of people and of the situation. Although, we all have different perspectives and how we react to situations, but being positive helps to cope with negativity. It requires seeing things from a different and bright perspective, such as being optimistic and being open to change. Ask yourself, do you find the possible best interpretation of a situation or do you find the worst?
Positive perspective is enjoined upon Muslims as Allah (S.W.T) says in the Quran: “O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion; indeed some suspicion is sin.” (Qur’an 49:12) This requires us to avoid doubts about the conduct of people and wanting to know what is going on in people’s lives. Therefore we should avoid suspicion without foundation. Umar bin Al-Khattab said: ‘Never think ill of the word that comes out of your believing brother’s mouth, as long as you can find a good excuse for it.’ Have a positive attitude towards people. Avoid judging and criticizing others, by preventing your eyes from falling on anything but mistakes. Having negative thoughts of people display the negativity in our minds. If we think negative of others they will think negative of us.
Being positive is a choice we constantly have to be making. It is easier to remain positive when things are going our way. The test is when things are not going our way, and we have a choice to choose between being positive or negative. Choosing the former makes positivity seem to be a natural part of our life and we can easily adapt to it in difficult circumstances. It is not to say we won’t feel sad, get disappointed or be angry in some situations, but our reaction depends on our perspectives. If we cannot change a particular situation, at least we can change our reaction and mindset towards it.
Therefore Allah (S.W.T) reminds us to be positive when things are not going our way “…and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you, Allah knows but you do not know.” (Qur’an, 2:216) Since, it is only Allah (S.W.T) that knows what is good for us, then why do we attach negativity to our situations?
Always have the belief that Allah decrees the best for his servant and you will be content. As the prophetic narration goes: ‘Wondrous is the affair of the believer for there is good for him in every matter and this is not the case with anyone except the believer. If he is happy, then he thanks Allah and thus there is good for him, and if he is harmed, then he shows patience and thus there is good for him.’ [Sahih Muslim]
Talking about perspectives and positivity, I would like to make reference to the story of Prophet Musa (AS) and Al-Khidr. The story is in Surah Khaf from verse 60- 82 (click to read full Tafsir) Prophet Musa (AS) delivered a speech to Bani Israel, and he was asked who is more knowledgeable, instead of him attributing knowledge to Allah he replied: ‘I am.’ Allah rebuked him and told him that “there is a servant of Ours who is more learned than you.” He met the servant of Allah named Al-Khidr. Upon Al-Khidr meeting Prophet Musa (AS), he said: “you will not be able to have patience with me”. Prophet Musa (AS) responded saying If Allah wills he will bear patience. Thereafter, Al-khidr gave him a condition not to ask about anything until it is mentioned to him.
On their journey, they were given a free ride on a boat and Al-Khidr damaged it. Prophet Musa exclaimed and rebuked Al-Khidr for his actions, thereafter Al-Khidr responded that Prophet Musa (AS) has broken the rule not to mention anything until he is told. Prophet Musa (AS) apologized immediately saying he forgot. Furthermore, Al-Khidr saw a boy who he killed. Prophet Musa (AS) exclaimed saying he has killed an innocent soul. Al-Khidr replied that Prophet Musa (AS) did not have patience with him. Afterward, Prophet Musa (AS) said: “If I ask you anything after this, keep me not in your company; you have received an excuse from me”. They proceeded and they came to a town where they asked for food and the people refused. To Prophet Musa (AS) surprise Al-Khidr found a wall about to collapse and he set it up straight. Prophet Musa (AS) responded to this action saying Al-Khidr could have taken money for repairing the wall, since the people were inhospitable. The impatience of Prophet Musa (AS) responding to these incidents made Al-Khidr tell him that this is the parting between them and he explained reasons for his actions. Destroying part of the boat, prevented it from being seized. Killing the boy was to prevent the parents from being kuffar, and mending the wall was to protect the hidden treasures of the Orphans left by a righteous father.
The reason why this story is mentioned is that it serves as a reminder for us to look at the bright side in unpleasant situations. Prophet Musa neither saw the full picture nor understood the situation, and by the will of Allah he complained and lost his patience. Al-Khidr whom Allah blessed with wisdom and understanding, did something that seems to be wrong, but was for the good. This is what Allah does to our lives. We need to accept and realize that we cannot always understand the decree of Allah.
Our boat may not get capsized and we may not lose a loved one, but we will have setbacks. How many people have missed a flight, and we hear that the plane crashed, or got delayed and was saved from a bigger disaster. In that situation of difficulty we complain of losses, because we are unable to understand what is happening. Be positive and condition yourself to think that everything Allah decrees into your life is for your good to achieve your purpose in life. Looking at the story of Musa and Al-Khidr Allah teaches us that we may see that Al-Khidr is doing something bad, but in reality it was for the ‘good’ This teaches us the importance of trusting the process, because, Allah has a plan for our life.
Just as Al-Khidr told Prophet Musa to not ask him any question and remain patient with him. We also have to learn to trust Allah with his decree and not question Him, but be patient with His decree. For us to see things from a positive perspective, we must remain patient, have perseverance and think positive, with the understanding that Allah is preparing something good for us.
Being positive is not only towards ourselves, we must also be positive of people and have good opinion toward others. Don’t think you are the only good person around, the flawless individual. Thinking that others are against you. We will neither be happy nor achieve contentment if we think that people are against us. We should not allow ourselves to be like the hypocrite Allah describe in the Quran “They think that every cry is against them” (Quran, 63:4)
Tips on how to have a positive perspective:
- Try to always remember the Hadith: the Affairs of a believer is always good. This enables us to realize that Allah wants the best for us.
- Condition yourself to think positive by avoiding negative thoughts and have Tawakkul (complete reliance and trust in Allah)
- Change your language by using positive words and be grateful for little things.
- Surround yourself with positive people.
- Go easy on yourself; things happen and we will never understand why. Always try to see the good in a situation, see that it could have been worse and be content with whatever you have. Trust Allah and Make DUA
- Avoid comparing your situation to others: everyone has a different journey
Hence, I conclude with a quote from “How Man Thinks” by James Allen:
‘Man will come to know that each time he changes his opinions and thoughts concerning things and other people, those same things and people will in their part also change… Therefore, the sacred thing that shapes our goal is our own selves.’
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Do you have any tips on how to be positive? I’d like to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.