*#8 Action Plan: Social Media Fast.


25 Shaban 1442

Social Media fast. Yes! You heard that right! We all need a break from social media. Reduce the time you spend on it.

Fasting is not purely abstaining from what you eat. It encompass what you see. What you hear. Etc.

You don’t have full control of what you see on social media as some content just pops up. You however have control of how you use it, who you follow, how much time you spend on it. Social media feeds us, ever wonder why it’s called a feed? For example: There might be a song with lyrics that aren’t fit for fasting ears or pictures of people that show a lot of nudity you don’t know what you’re going to come in contact with. Fasting is a shield the more you see or hear things aren’t supposed to be more your shield is weakened. The little things that we see and hear can poison our hearts and reduce the reward for fasting.

We here at Thoughts and Reflections will be taking a break from social media during the Month of Ramadan.

Some people may not be able to take a full break but try to reduce your time on social media. If possible, come on it when it is absolutely necessary during Ramadan. You can put your phone on airplane mode for a while to avoid distractions.

Spend time rectifying yourself. Listening to the words of Allah ﷻ. Use this Ramadan as a moment to look inward, to self-reflect and identify what you need to rectify in yourself.

You may be wondering how to stay updated with Islamic Knowledge. Consider downloading apps you can use in your time to gain beneficial knowledge without using the internet.


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Priority is everything, this month is one for us to prioritise our Ibadah. It is a special month, and it calls for special effort! It is a time to level up so we should aim to be better and take active steps to work towards it. Prioritise the main Ibadah and fulfil other’s right upon you. May Almighty Allah ﷻ aid us and make the actions we have learnt beneficial for us. Make it easy to incorporate them in our lives. Ameen

It is a SPECIAL MONTH. And it calls for Special EFFORT! It is a time to level up so we should aim to be better incorporating active steps to achieve it.

I pray Almighty Allah ﷻ blesses you for making it this far. I pray this year’s Ramadan is your best one yet. Together we will enter Ramadan Strong because we have prepared for it sincerely hoping and longing for the reward from Allah ﷻ. 

*They are in no particular order of importance.

Till next time Fi Ammanillah!

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*#7 Action Plan: Plan your day.


22 Shaban 1442

Planning is crucial. For about 3 years I have been planning how my Ramadan goes. Essentially write out acts of Ibadah and fit them into your time frame. This makes you conscious of time. Have time for Qur’an, seerah, tafsir, hadiths, lectures, cooking etc. Plan and it will serve you. Proper preparation prevents poor performance. Make the best of the days leading to Ramadan and plan yourself.

Depending on your circumstances the plan may not go accordingly, especially if you are not living alone. And you have to fulfil others right upon you such as parents, children etc. Nonetheless, it is highly recommended you write out and schedule a plan. Be flexible! Know that sometimes your plan will get disrupted by unforeseen circumstances. When you plan by writing you’re on a mental shift and you know what you should do at a certain time. This prevents you from thinking of what to do with time or wasting the precious time you have. You don’t find yourself thinking “what should I do now?” you simply check your book. And as you follow the routine, it sticks with you.

*They are in no particular order of importance.

Till next Thursday Fi Ammanillah!

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*#6 Action Plan: Prepare A DUA List


18 Shaban 1442

Yes, start writing out what you want to ask from your Rabb. Write what you want in this dunya and aakhira. When you write you are also able to know what you want. It makes it easier for you to supplicate. As you are preparing your dua list, you can incorporate the names of Allah with your request. Nothing is too big for Allah to grant. Nothing is impossible for Him. Don’t ask for the impossible and haram too. “And your Lord said: “Invoke Me [i.e. believe in My Oneness (Islamic Monotheism) and ask Me for anything] I will respond to your (invocation)” (Qur’an 40:60)

Dua is very important in Islam, so much so that the Prophet ﷺ said: “Dua’ is worship.” [Tirmidhi, 3372; Abu Dawood, 1479]

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When you write it is easier for you to supplicate. As you look at your journal frequently it gets registered in your brain. Don’t wait for Lailatul Qadr to ask. Write what you want. You have a Lord that loves to be asked, so ASK!!! Try to make your request during the blessed period.

Ensure your list is paired with these 3 elements.

Conviction. A level of conviction that Allah ﷻ is listening. He is As Sameer (The All Hearing) Al Aleem (The All Knowing) So ask wholeheartedly. The Messenger of Allah said: ‘Make dua to Allah whilst you are certain of a response, because Allah does not accept a dua from a heedless heart’ (Tirmidhi)

Sincerity- Ikhlas. Believing that Allah ﷻ is the only one who can help and you won’t turn your hand of need to anyone but Him.

Trust. Trust that Allah ﷻ will respond to your dua’s, the way you don’t rely on your own abilities. Do not be impatient. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said ‘The dua of everyone of you is accepted as long as he does not grow impatient and says : ‘I made dua but it was not accepted’” (Muslim)

Check out previous article on  ETIQUETTE OF MAKING DUA for more information


Supplicate to Allah using His beautiful Names.

Learn Qur’anic and Prophetic supplications with their meanings. They are comprehensive.

*They are in no particular order of importance.

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*#5 Action Plan: Set Tahajjud into routine.


15 Shaban 1442

Why should you set Tahajjud into routine?

The Prophet ﷺ informs us: the best Salat after the prescribed Salat is Salat at night.” [Muslim]. (Paraphrased) so, performing Salah at night is highly meritorious!

One of the characteristics of the righteous is that “They used to sleep but little by night [invoking their Rabb (Allah) and praying, with fear and hope].” “And in the hours before dawn they would ask for forgiveness” (Qur’an 51:17-18)

Mother Aishah raḍyAllāhu ‘anha reported: The Prophet ﷺ kept standing (in prayer) so long that the skin of his feet would crack. I asked him: “Why do you do this, while you have been forgiven of your former and latter sins?” He said, “Should I not be a grateful slave of Allah?” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. From this we see that engaging in Tahajjud is a means for us to express gratitude to Allah ﷻ.

The Prophet ﷺ way of performing Tahajjud

Mother Aishah raḍyAllāhu ‘anha reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to perform eleven Rak’ah (of Tahajjud) prayers at night. He ﷺ would prostrate so long as one of you might recite fifty Ayat (of the Qur’an). Thereafter, he would perform two Rak’ah before Fajr prayers and would lie down on his right side till the Mu’adhdhin would come and inform him about the time of (Fajr) prayer. [Al-Bukhari].  Etiquette of making dua comes up here. As there is a greater possibility of acceptance of prayer which is made in a state of prostration.

A blessed time to make dua. – Abu Huraira reported رضي الله عنه said: The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ said, “Our Lord Almighty descends to the lowest heaven in the last third of every night, saying: Who is calling upon Me that I may answer him? Who is asking from Me that I may give him? Who is seeking My forgiveness that I may forgive him?” [Bukhari and Muslim] A blessed time to speak to Allah ﷻ. We are all in need. We all have something to request from Allah ﷻ. So, we should make the best of this time to ask!

Besides, setting this routine will equally prepare you to wake up for Sahur. There is benefit in eating Sahur, so don’t lose out on it. Anas رضي الله عنه reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Eat Suhur (predawn meal). Surely, there is a blessing in Suhur.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

‘Amr bin Al-‘As رضي الله عنه reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “The difference between our observance of Saum (fasting) and that of the people of the Scriptures is Suhur (predawn meal in Ramadan).” [Muslim].  We learn from this Hadith that Suhur is a distinctive mark with which Allah has blessed the Muslim Ummah.

How to wake up for Tahajjud.

  • Be sincere on why you want to wake up.
  • Supplicate to Allah.
  • Have power naps it can be as little as 20 minutes.
  • Drink water before going to bed.
  • Don’t eat till late so your stomach is not heavy.
  • Perform wudu before you sleep.
  • Sleep early.
  • Ser alarms.
  • Have an accountability partner: If you live with someone ask them to wake you up.
  • Consider delaying your Witr to Tahajjud time.

Start waking up now don’t wait till Ramadan.

Some Hadith on the excellence of Tahajjud

Salah Salim bin ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar bin Al-Khattab رضي الله عنه reported, on the authority of his father, that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “What an excellent man ‘Abdullah is! If only he could perform optional prayers at night.” Salim said that after this, (his father) ‘Abdullah slept very little at night. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

‘Abdullah bin ‘Amr bin Al-‘As رضي الله عنه reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, “Do not be like so-and-so O ‘Abdullah! He used to pray during the night, then stopped the practice.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

A means to Jannah – ‘Abdullah bin Salam رضي الله عنه reported: The Prophet ﷺ said, “O people, promote the greetings, feed (the poor and needy) and perform Salat when others are asleep so that you will enter Jannah safely.” [At-Tirmidhi].

Commentary:  This Hadith has glad tidings for those who enthusiastically do all the good works mentioned in this Hadith. “Enter Jannah in peace” here means that they will enter Jannah without suffering any punishment in Hell.

*They are in no particular order of importance.

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*#4 Action Plan: Seek for forgiveness. TAWBAH


11 Shaban 1442

This may not require journalling. It is a straightforward action for you to engage in.

We all commit sins – Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “By the One in Whose Hand my soul is! If you do not commit sins, Allah would replace you with a people who would commit sins and seek forgiveness from Allah; and Allah will certainly forgive them.” [Muslim]. When we falter, we should not stick to it, but turn to Allah ﷻ immediately. Seeking forgiveness is a very good act. May Almighty Allah ﷻ open our heart to repent to Him always!

We should haste towards seeking forgiveness from Allah ﷻ.“Race towards forgiveness from your Lord and a Garden whose width is like the width of the heavens and the earth, prepared for those who believe in Allah and His messengers. This is the bounty of Allah. He gives to whom He wills. And Allah is the possessor of great bounty”(Qur’an 51:21)

Our utmost Role Model ﷺ sought forgiveness from Allah and repent to Him more than seventy times in a day.  [Bukhārī 5948] (paraphrased) So, we should emulate the Prophet in this regard. Moisten your tongue with Astagfirlullah. “And seek the forgiveness of Allah. Certainly, Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Qur’an 4:106) “Verily, He is the One Who accepts the repentance and Who forgives.” (Qur’an 110:3)

A step further – Try going a step further by performing 2 rakah of Salaat al-tawbah (the prayer of repentance). Expressly ask Almighty Allah ﷻ to forgive you. Supplicate that He forgives you of intended and unintended sins. Express your need for repentance. And have a strong resolve not to go back to it again. I recently learnt from a friend to incorporate Salaat al-tawbah when performing Tahajjud. (this is something you can do too) We will cover Tahajjud in action 5 In Sha Allah.

The Excellence of Observing Salaat al-tawbah (the prayer of repentance)

Abu Bakr al-Siddeeq رضي الله عنه said: I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say: “There is no one who commits a sin then purifies himself well and stands and prays two rak’ahs, then asks Allah for forgiveness, but Allah will forgive him. Then he recited this verse: ‘And those who, when they have committed Faahishah (illegal sexual intercourse) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sins; — and none can forgive sins but Allah — and do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know’ (Qur’an 3:135).” [Abu Dawood 1521]

Abu’l-Darda’ رضي الله عنه said: I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say: “The one who does wudoo’ and does it well, then stands and prays two rak’ahs or four (one of the narrators was uncertain), in which he remembers Allah and focuses well, then asks Allah for forgiveness, He will forgive him.” [Ahmad 26998]

Read more here: Salaat al-tawbah (the prayer of repentance) – islamqa

The 3 white days starts from the 27th March to 29th of March (Saturday to Monday). Endeavour to fast. And remind others.

*They are in no particular order of importance.

Till next Monday Fi Ammanillah!

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*#3 Action Plan: Learn about the merits of Ramadan. Then write them down.


8 Shaban 1442

Write down “Merits of Ramadan that speaks to me

When you learn about the merits of Ramadan and write them down, you are getting mentally prepared for the propitious months. You know the “why” of fasting. The merits. You know what you should abstain from. The purpose etc.

Remember fasting in the Month of Ramadan is a pillar of Islam. It is one of the things we need to do for our Islam to be complete, to fulfil this obligation we need to equip ourselves with the right knowledge.

Here are some Qur’an verses and hadiths on the merits of fasting. Take time to research. Look at Qur’an verses, hadiths of the prophet ﷺ and long for the Reward with Allah ﷻ.  

The Excellence of Observing Saum (Fasts) during Ramadan

Piety – Allah ﷻ, the Exalted, says: “O you who believe! the fasting is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqun (the pious). Fasting for a fixed number of days, but if any of you is ill or on a journey, the same number (should be made up) from other days. And as for those who can fast with difficulty, (e.g., an old man), they have (a choice either to fast or) to feed a Miskin (poor person) (for every day). But whoever does good of his own accord, it is better for him. And that you fast is better for you if only you know. The month of Ramadan in which was revealed the Qur’an, a guidance for mankind and clear proofs for the guidance and the criterion (between right and wrong). So whoever of you sights (the crescent on the first night of) the month (of Ramadan, i.e., is present at his home), he must fast that month, and whoever is ill or on a journey, the same number (of days which one did not fast must be made up) from other days.” (Qur’an 2:183-185)

Pleasure of Allah ﷻ – Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Allah the Exalted and Majestic said: ‘Every act of the son of Adam is for him, except As-Siyam (the fasting) which is (exclusively) for Me, and I will reward him for it.’ Fasting is a shield. When anyone of you is observing fast, he should neither indulge in obscene language nor should he raise his voice; and if anyone reviles him or tries to quarrel with him, he should say: ‘I am fasting.’ By Him in Whose Hand the soul of Muhammad is, the breath of one observing Saum is sweeter to Allah than the fragrance of musk. The one who fasts, experiences two joys: he feels pleasure when he breaks the fast. He is joyful by virtue of his fast when he meets his Rabb.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

In a narration by Al-Bukhari, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Allah says: ‘(The person observing Saum) has abstained from food and drink, and sexual pleasures for My sake; fasting is for Me, and I will bestow its reward. Every good deed has ten times its reward’.”

A means to Jannah – Sahl bin Sa’d رضي الله عنه reported: The Prophet ﷺ said, “In Jannah there is a gate which is called Ar-Raiyan through which only those who observe Saum (fasting) will enter on the Day of Resurrection. None else will enter through it. It will be called out, “Where are those who observe fasting?” So they will stand up and proceed towards it. When the last of them will have entered, the gate will be closed and then no one will enter through that gate.” [Muslim].

Commentary:  This Hadith tells us about the special distinction of those who observe Saum. “Only those who observe Saum” signify the faithful who not only observe Saum during the month of Ramadan but also frequently observe voluntary fasts over and above the obligatory ones, otherwise Saum of Ramadan are compulsory for every Muslim.

Protection from Jahannam – Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri رضي الله عنه reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ  said, “Every slave of Allah who observes Saum (fasting) for one day for the sake of Allah, Allah will draw his face farther from Hell-fire to the extent of a distance to be covered in seventy years.”[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Commentary:  “Every slave of Allah” includes men, women, the free and the unfree, because they are slaves of Allah. The Hadith highlights the excellence of fasting for the sake of Allah which will serve, on the Day of Resurrection, as shield against Hell-fire.

Forgiveness – Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه reported: The Prophet ﷺ said, “He who observes fasting during the month of Ramadan with Faith while seeking its reward from Allah, will have his past sins forgiven.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Commentary:  “Sins” here means minor sins which relate to the Rights of Allah.

*They are in no particular order of importance.

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*#1 Action Plan: Take Account of YOUR Current State.

1 Shaban 1442

Why should you take account of your current state?

We should aim to be better after every Ramadan in our lives, as it comes to purify us. Cleanse us. And make us conscious of our relationship with Allah ﷻ. We should use it as an opportunity to review our lives and measure whether we have improved in an aspect of the deen as we grow.

Think realistically on how Ramadan is benefitting you, rather than how you are only acting in that month!

Be sincere and truthful to Almighty Allah ﷻand yourself as you write. You do not have to share your exercise with anyone, know that Allah sees it and that is enough!

So, lets dive in

– Take a moment to write down habits you have developed from previous Ramadan. Write “Habits I have developed from last year’s Ramadan”

Write down areas that you have improved on since last year Ramadan.


  • Started praying on time
  • Recite Qur’an often
  • Engage in Tahajjud
  • Practiced seeking istigfar (forgiveness)
  • Increased in Dhikr
  • Sought out Islamic Knowledge etc

– Thereafter, write things you have neglected from last year’s Ramadan. “Habits I neglected from last year’s Ramadan” By this I mean things you planned to do consistently but you know you faltered and have not kept up with it post-Ramadan of last year.


  • Unable to fast nawafil fast
  • Inconsistency with Tahajjud

Fill in the blank for yourself, by taking account of yourself. (it is very personal and make sure it reflects YOU)

The purpose of this exercise is for you to see how well you have improved and changed from last year Ramadan to this year. This brings the gratitude spirit in us because you are able to see how Almighty Allah has changed your life. We cannot count Allah’s favour on us.

On the other hand, we see where we need to improve and consciously take action to work on them.

*They are in no particular order of importance.

Till next Thursday Fi Ammanillah!

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Ramadan Prep 1442: A series on Action Plan.


5 months ago I wrote about RAMADAN PREP because the Sahabas used to prepare for this auspicious month 6 month in advance. Shaban is upon us (In Islam the day starts after Magrib) which gives us roughly 29/30 days to Ramadan. How well have we prepared? Many people are learning about the merits of this blessed month but are we taking action to implement what we have learnt? Are we taking steps to make this year’s Ramadan the best we’ve ever had? That is my goal. To make this year’s Ramadan better than my previous ones. Thought and Reflection is delighted to announce that A series on Ramadan Action Plan will be coming up. Here we will cover 8 actions for you to incorporate and bi’idniallah YOU will enter Ramadan Strong. Sign up to receive every Monday and Thursday, leading up to Ramadan.

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We will talk through actions and cultivate habits. Some of the actions shared are what members have incorporated in their lives and it has worked. The only thing you need to get is a journal, a pen, and a comfortable atmosphere for you to write, think and get yourself in the mood.

Are you wondering why journaling? It is an effective way for you to take account of yourself. Since last year’s Ramadan I created my Ramadan Life Book. Here is where I write all I want to do for Ramadan, things I am doing, my goals and habits I want to develop etc. you can follow this approach and it will hold you accountable.

Umar bin Al-Khattab رضي الله عنه, reminds us to be accountable “Take stock [account] of yourselves before you are brought to account; weigh yourselves before you are weighted, for that will make the reckoning easier for you tomorrow, if you take stock [account] of yourselves today and prepare yourselves for the great presentation on the Day when you will be brought to Judgment, and not a secret of yours will be hidden”. Narrated by Ibn Abi’d-Dunya in Muhaasabat an-Nafs (p.22).

Let us use the days leading up to Ramadan to take account of ourselves.

Here’s what I wrote sometimes ago on how we can prepare for Ramadan. The action plan will be elaborated in subsequent weeks In Sha Allah. With prompts to get you writing.

  • Make dua (supplicate) that Almighty Allah ﷻ accepts your last year’s Ramadan. Act of worship requires acceptance from Allah. Hence, the need to complete your act of worship with dua. Engage in istigfar for your sins. The ones committed intentionally and unintentionally.
  •  Make dua that Almighty Allah ﷻ keeps you alive to witness the next Ramadan. So many people have died between last year Ramadan and now – allowing us to witness limitation in the human ability. Supplicate that Almighty Allah ﷻ increase your lifespan with the intention to do good.
  • Pay off your Last year Ramadan if you are still owing.
  • Make an action plan. Review your last year Ramadan and things you planned to do after Ramadan.


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Proper preparation prevents poor performance. We need to prepare for Ramadan so we can maximise the benefits the month brings.  

The Non-negotiables such as Salah, Qur’an recitation etc. are not going to be covered in this action plan series.

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Till tomorrow Fi Ammanillah!

What is Your Fear and Insecurity doing to YOU?


Yes, you. What is your fear and insecurity doing to you?

We have/had things we feel insecure about. A major one is the fear of failure.

One thing with fears is that it keeps us grounded (in a certain way.) How? You may wonder. We are taught to have fear of Allah. This fear must however be balanced with hope!

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“They abandon their beds, invoking their Lord with hope and fear, and donate from what We have provided for them.”(Qur’an 32:16)

“…Indeed, they used to race in doing good, and call upon Us with hope and fear, totally humbling themselves before Us.” (Qur’an 21:90)

A supplication of the Prophet ﷺ – ‘O Allah, I submit my face to you and entrust my affair to you. I commit myself to you out of hope and fear of you. [Sahih Muslim 2710]

A similarity with the three phrases is that hope comes before fear. You may want to reread before going further. (that’s not a subject of discussion tho)

The description above presents what fear leads to – action and calling upon Allah ﷻ. We need a certain level of fear to prevent us from being complacent. Sadly, most of the time our fear results due to thinking of a future event. What will happen if I do x and y? A future beyond our control. Yet we dwell on it and this hampers us from taking necessary steps. We lose focusing on taking action in the present.

Sometimes these fears are just imagination.

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We have the fear of hell fire and this pushes us to take action by worshipping Allah ﷻ – praying, giving charity in short, a drive that makes I and you perform good deeds. Similarly, your worldly fears should push you to take action, call upon Allah ﷻ due to your fear and express complete reliance in Allah ﷻ.  Do what is within your power accepting that you are not in control of the result. You do not determine the outcome of your effort. Allah ﷻ does! ‘If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations gathered together to benefit you, they could not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they could not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.’ [Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2516]

Commit to seeking and asking Allah ﷻ for help. Sometimes the fears you have kept you holding tight to your Rabb ﷻ. They make you Call out to Him. They make you Seek His Guidance. His Counsel. His Help. Because you are nothing without Him. Accept and come to terms that whatever He decrees happens and it is good for you.

Over to the example of failure above. If you fear failing in your studies, ensure you study more, do what is within your power to understand what you are being taught and have trust in Allah ﷻ. Demonstrate complete reliance in Allah ﷻ. When you do this, bi ibnillah you will gradually overcome your fears.

Besides, knowing you are doing things for Allah’s sake also helps to combat our fears. They make us turn to Him, in weakness, in helplessness seeking His aid. When we have sincere intention and to do things purely for His ﷻ sake, we are detached from result and strive to put our best effort because we want Him ﷻ to accept it – doing it with Ihsan (Excellence).

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When next you find yourself…

Scared to leap.

Scared to start.

Scared to believe.

Scared to let go.

Scared to break-free.

Scared to start all over again.

Scared to… (insert what is applicable to your situation)

Call upon the one who is Able. The one who is ever near and responsive (AL-MUJIB). The one who is All Knowing (AL-ALEEM). Ever seeing (AL-BASIR) Ready to listen to your whispers, silent tears. (AS-SAMI) The one who Creates all things (AL-KHALIQ) including what is making you scared, worried, or anxious. He ﷻ knows why He instilled that fear in you. So, acknowledge there is a reason to which you may not comprehend.

A simple practical exercise on self-talk and writing therapy.  Write down your fears. (please don’t think it in your head, get it penned down) then ask yourself some questions, why do I have this fear? What have I done because of this fear? What is this fear preventing me from doing? Interrogate yourself, if I don’t get what I am expecting, what will happen. Take yourself to make dua. Supplicate to Almighty Allah ﷻ to help you overcome the fear. Journal your answer and take steps from there. Take action. Maybe you need to speak to someone. Maybe you need to overcome some limiting beliefs. May be you need to … (you can let me know in the comment section below)

Is there anything you’ve done to overcome your fears? Or something you’ve learnt to overcome your fears? I’d love to hear in the comment section below.

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Always remember: Indeed, He is with me wherever I am. Allah will not overburden me than I can bear. (Qur’an 2:286)

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What Defines YOU?


This post is a continuation of #TrueLifeStories on DISAPPOINTMENT TAUGHT ME DETACHMENT. You may want to consider reading the previous post before you continue.

A bit on what gave birth to this post you are reading. I decided to write this because I was on a search to identify what defined me. I have defined myself with different labels, but I noticed that they left me at one point in my life – the labels were temporary: they left me. We define ourselves with labels and titles. That was how the search began. To identify how and what I should allow define me and this story follows….

As Muslims we are blessed to have a way we should live our life, because we have a life manual. We have a guide to follow to be successful, to be achievers… name it. We have answers to many life questions. All we need to do is to search the right sources and we will find the answer glaring in front of our faces. We have a guide to follow on how we should live our life. To anyone reading, for any question you have  always go back to the Qur’an and Sunnah as your source or ask learned people you trust. We should treasure this gift of Iman (faith) and take measures to preserve it. As Muslims we should always pray to live and die as a Muslim. Pray that you do not lose your connection with Allah ﷻ, because this life will be meaningless without it. Without knowing your purpose you will be on the search for an unending self-discovery.

What defines you? I have come to realize that it is up we as individuals to choose what defines us. As human beings, we have perceptions of ourselves. How we want to be seen and viewed by the outside world.  Many of us have or still define ourselves based on our accomplishment, status, appearance what we do. etc. but now, I choose not to. And I want you to do the same. What happens when we get stripped of the so-called labels we attach to our names? How will you see yourself?

Over to you, I’m asking you what defines you?

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Before you answer, let’s have a glance over a Hadith about Mother of the Believers – Khadijah raḍyAllāhu ‘anha.  

Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه reported: The Angel Jubriel came to the Prophet ﷺ, and he said, “O Messenger of Allah, here is Khadijah coming to you with a dish of stew, food and drink. When she arrives before you, greet her with peace on behalf of her Lord and myself. Give her glad tidings of a palace in Paradise made of reeds, wherein there will be no turbulence, nor fatigue.” [Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 3610, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2432]

Anytime I come across this Hadith I adore her more. As it makes me reflect on how I can elevate my status in the sight of my Rabb – Allah. Why did she have this lofty status you may ask? Why did she receive Salam from Allah ﷻ and Angel Jubriel? Why was she given glad tidings of Jannah on earth? She sought and gained her status with Allah and we should emulate her in this regard.  Before the coming of Islam she was a woman of nobility, from a noble lineage and had a high status in the society. Her status in the society changed when the message of Islam began to be propagated. She raḍyAllāhu ‘anha stood with the Prophet. Used all she had for Islam. She raḍyAllāhu ‘anha lost her worldly status but secured her place in Jannah.

This leads me to an ayah of the Qur’an in Suratul Hujurat:

“Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you. Allah is truly All-Knowing, All-Aware.” (Qur’an 49:13)

What earned Mother Khadijah raḍyAllāhu ‘anha status with Allah ﷻ was her righteousness. Her piety. All of this elevated her rank in Jannah. So, we should earn our honour with Allah on account of Taqwa. We should seek our status with Him.

What should we take from this? When you define and assess your self based on your Taqwa, you will commit to working on it. You will seek to develop this personal relationship and seek your status with Allah by engaging in righteous deeds.

Any worldly title you have is a means for you to attain Taqwa. E.g My role as a daughter, a student, etc is to attain Taqwa. I am using the so-called labels as resources to earn my status with Allah. By doing this you will naturally conform and behave in accordance with attaining Taqwa in all you do.

Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was asked about that for which people are admitted into Paradise the most, so he said: “Taqwa of Allah, and good character.” And he was asked about that for which people are admitted into the Fire the most, and he said: “The mouth and the private parts.” (Tirmidhi

I hope that now since you know what you should allow to define you, you can work on it.

POINT OF REFLECTION: Ask yourself what do you need to do, to strengthen your relationship with Allah? Does your acts of Ibadah make you have Taqwa? Are you conscious of Allah in your dealings?

Abu Hurayrah said: “Some people asked the Prophet ﷺ, ‘Who is the most honourable among people?’ He replied, “The most honourable among them with Allah is the one who has the most Taqwa…” [Sahih Bukhari]

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Till next time Fi Ammanillah!#

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