What is Your Fear and Insecurity doing to YOU?


BISMILLAH-IR-RAHMAN-IR-RAHIM

Yes, you. What is your fear and insecurity doing to you?

We have/had things we feel insecure about. A major one is the fear of failure.

One thing with fears is that it keeps us grounded (in a certain way.) How? You may wonder. We are taught to have fear of Allah. This fear must however be balanced with hope!

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“They abandon their beds, invoking their Lord with hope and fear, and donate from what We have provided for them.”(Qur’an 32:16)

“…Indeed, they used to race in doing good, and call upon Us with hope and fear, totally humbling themselves before Us.” (Qur’an 21:90)

A supplication of the Prophet ﷺ – ‘O Allah, I submit my face to you and entrust my affair to you. I commit myself to you out of hope and fear of you. [Sahih Muslim 2710]

A similarity with the three phrases is that hope comes before fear. You may want to reread before going further. (that’s not a subject of discussion tho)

The description above presents what fear leads to – action and calling upon Allah ﷻ. We need a certain level of fear to prevent us from being complacent. Sadly, most of the time our fear results due to thinking of a future event. What will happen if I do x and y? A future beyond our control. Yet we dwell on it and this hampers us from taking necessary steps. We lose focusing on taking action in the present.

Sometimes these fears are just imagination.

Related post: What Defines YOU?

We have the fear of hell fire and this pushes us to take action by worshipping Allah ﷻ – praying, giving charity in short, a drive that makes I and you perform good deeds. Similarly, your worldly fears should push you to take action, call upon Allah ﷻ due to your fear and express complete reliance in Allah ﷻ.  Do what is within your power accepting that you are not in control of the result. You do not determine the outcome of your effort. Allah ﷻ does! ‘If you ask, ask from Allah. If you seek help, seek help from Allah. Know that if the nations gathered together to benefit you, they could not benefit you unless Allah has decreed it for you. And if the nations gathered together to harm you, they could not harm you unless Allah has decreed it for you. The pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.’ [Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2516]

Commit to seeking and asking Allah ﷻ for help. Sometimes the fears you have kept you holding tight to your Rabb ﷻ. They make you Call out to Him. They make you Seek His Guidance. His Counsel. His Help. Because you are nothing without Him. Accept and come to terms that whatever He decrees happens and it is good for you.

Over to the example of failure above. If you fear failing in your studies, ensure you study more, do what is within your power to understand what you are being taught and have trust in Allah ﷻ. Demonstrate complete reliance in Allah ﷻ. When you do this, bi ibnillah you will gradually overcome your fears.

Besides, knowing you are doing things for Allah’s sake also helps to combat our fears. They make us turn to Him, in weakness, in helplessness seeking His aid. When we have sincere intention and to do things purely for His ﷻ sake, we are detached from result and strive to put our best effort because we want Him ﷻ to accept it – doing it with Ihsan (Excellence).

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When next you find yourself…

Scared to leap.

Scared to start.

Scared to believe.

Scared to let go.

Scared to break-free.

Scared to start all over again.

Scared to… (insert what is applicable to your situation)

Call upon the one who is Able. The one who is ever near and responsive (AL-MUJIB). The one who is All Knowing (AL-ALEEM). Ever seeing (AL-BASIR) Ready to listen to your whispers, silent tears. (AS-SAMI) The one who Creates all things (AL-KHALIQ) including what is making you scared, worried, or anxious. He ﷻ knows why He instilled that fear in you. So, acknowledge there is a reason to which you may not comprehend.

A simple practical exercise on self-talk and writing therapy.  Write down your fears. (please don’t think it in your head, get it penned down) then ask yourself some questions, why do I have this fear? What have I done because of this fear? What is this fear preventing me from doing? Interrogate yourself, if I don’t get what I am expecting, what will happen. Take yourself to make dua. Supplicate to Almighty Allah ﷻ to help you overcome the fear. Journal your answer and take steps from there. Take action. Maybe you need to speak to someone. Maybe you need to overcome some limiting beliefs. May be you need to … (you can let me know in the comment section below)

Is there anything you’ve done to overcome your fears? Or something you’ve learnt to overcome your fears? I’d love to hear in the comment section below.

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Always remember: Indeed, He is with me wherever I am. Allah will not overburden me than I can bear. (Qur’an 2:286)


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What Defines YOU?


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This post is a continuation of #TrueLifeStories on DISAPPOINTMENT TAUGHT ME DETACHMENT. You may want to consider reading the previous post before you continue.

A bit on what gave birth to this post you are reading. I decided to write this because I was on a search to identify what defined me. I have defined myself with different labels, but I noticed that they left me at one point in my life – the labels were temporary: they left me. We define ourselves with labels and titles. That was how the search began. To identify how and what I should allow define me and this story follows….


As Muslims we are blessed to have a way we should live our life, because we have a life manual. We have a guide to follow to be successful, to be achievers… name it. We have answers to many life questions. All we need to do is to search the right sources and we will find the answer glaring in front of our faces. We have a guide to follow on how we should live our life. To anyone reading, for any question you have  always go back to the Qur’an and Sunnah as your source or ask learned people you trust. We should treasure this gift of Iman (faith) and take measures to preserve it. As Muslims we should always pray to live and die as a Muslim. Pray that you do not lose your connection with Allah ﷻ, because this life will be meaningless without it. Without knowing your purpose you will be on the search for an unending self-discovery.

What defines you? I have come to realize that it is up we as individuals to choose what defines us. As human beings, we have perceptions of ourselves. How we want to be seen and viewed by the outside world.  Many of us have or still define ourselves based on our accomplishment, status, appearance what we do. etc. but now, I choose not to. And I want you to do the same. What happens when we get stripped of the so-called labels we attach to our names? How will you see yourself?

Over to you, I’m asking you what defines you?

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Before you answer, let’s have a glance over a Hadith about Mother of the Believers – Khadijah raḍyAllāhu ‘anha.  

Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه reported: The Angel Jubriel came to the Prophet ﷺ, and he said, “O Messenger of Allah, here is Khadijah coming to you with a dish of stew, food and drink. When she arrives before you, greet her with peace on behalf of her Lord and myself. Give her glad tidings of a palace in Paradise made of reeds, wherein there will be no turbulence, nor fatigue.” [Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 3610, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2432]

Anytime I come across this Hadith I adore her more. As it makes me reflect on how I can elevate my status in the sight of my Rabb – Allah. Why did she have this lofty status you may ask? Why did she receive Salam from Allah ﷻ and Angel Jubriel? Why was she given glad tidings of Jannah on earth? She sought and gained her status with Allah and we should emulate her in this regard.  Before the coming of Islam she was a woman of nobility, from a noble lineage and had a high status in the society. Her status in the society changed when the message of Islam began to be propagated. She raḍyAllāhu ‘anha stood with the Prophet. Used all she had for Islam. She raḍyAllāhu ‘anha lost her worldly status but secured her place in Jannah.

This leads me to an ayah of the Qur’an in Suratul Hujurat:

“Surely the most noble of you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous among you. Allah is truly All-Knowing, All-Aware.” (Qur’an 49:13)

What earned Mother Khadijah raḍyAllāhu ‘anha status with Allah ﷻ was her righteousness. Her piety. All of this elevated her rank in Jannah. So, we should earn our honour with Allah on account of Taqwa. We should seek our status with Him.

What should we take from this? When you define and assess your self based on your Taqwa, you will commit to working on it. You will seek to develop this personal relationship and seek your status with Allah by engaging in righteous deeds.

Any worldly title you have is a means for you to attain Taqwa. E.g My role as a daughter, a student, etc is to attain Taqwa. I am using the so-called labels as resources to earn my status with Allah. By doing this you will naturally conform and behave in accordance with attaining Taqwa in all you do.

Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was asked about that for which people are admitted into Paradise the most, so he said: “Taqwa of Allah, and good character.” And he was asked about that for which people are admitted into the Fire the most, and he said: “The mouth and the private parts.” (Tirmidhi

I hope that now since you know what you should allow to define you, you can work on it.

POINT OF REFLECTION: Ask yourself what do you need to do, to strengthen your relationship with Allah? Does your acts of Ibadah make you have Taqwa? Are you conscious of Allah in your dealings?

Abu Hurayrah said: “Some people asked the Prophet ﷺ, ‘Who is the most honourable among people?’ He replied, “The most honourable among them with Allah is the one who has the most Taqwa…” [Sahih Bukhari]

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The Most Intelligent of People


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The world we are in treats people based on their intellect. The education system grades is centered on intelligence. Certain professions are attributed to be for only the ‘intelligent’. 

Being called ‘smart’ ‘sensible’ ‘intelligent’ is something we all crave for, and aspire to have these titles added to our names. But this is a temporary title, and it will fade away with time whether we like it or not 😦

The Prophet ﷺ informs us of the most intelligent person. We can aspire and strive to be like this person regardless of our worldly status, our social status, irrespective of people’s opinion of us. I am sure you are wondering what is the attribute of this person and what does the person do that makes him/her intelligent?

This question was put forward by a man to the Prophet ﷺ: ‘Who is the most intelligent of people?’ He replied: ‘The one who remembers death most often and the one who is well prepared to meet it; these are the wise; honorable in this life and dignified in the Hereafter’. Another narration reads slightly ‘Those who remember death the most frequently and those who prepare for death in the best manner, before they pass away. These are from the intelligent ones.’” (Ibn Majah, Tabarni).

“Wherever you may be, death will overtake you, even if you should be within towers of lofty constructionQur’an 4:78

Death is a topic we don’t like to talk about. It’s a discussion that is usually brushed aside. We don’t like to think about it because we are busy pursuing the fleeting life, amassing wealth and status. Look around you and see if there is someone that has been living in eternity? Sadly, some even pray against it. This is one thing that is guaranteed to happen. Allah ﷻ says: “Every soul will taste death, and you will only be given your [full] compensation on the Day of Resurrection… And what is the life of this world except the enjoyment of delusion.Qur’an 3:185  Therefore, Death is an inevitable reality. No one can escape from it because this life is temporary. We will all die ONEDAY.

“Remembering death is not an invitation for depression and grief, nor is it gloomy, bleak advice favoring pessimism and passiveness. It is just a reminder of an absolute fact, a fact that we all tend to forget while immersed in this transient, falsely embellished world and cheated by its charming coquetries. We are all one breath away from death. We usually do not remember that and we do not like to be reminded, either. Nevertheless, it is an inescapable fact”

Amira Ayad, Healing Body and Soul.

Another aspect I would like to touch upon is that death is not an end in itself. It is the beginning of another journey. We all want to go to Jannah, but without dying we can’t get to Jannah. No one can change the time of their death. The best thing to do in a situation you cannot change is to accept and prepare yourself by making the best of the situation. In another Hadith the Prophet ﷺ informs us to pray as if it’s your last prayer: “When you stand for your prayer, pray as if you are saying farewell. (Ibn Majah) By praying as if it is your last prayer you will gradually learn not to be scared of death knowing that you can die anytime.

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You may be wondering why do I have to remember death to be an intelligent person?
  • Remembering death forces us to reflect on the purpose of our creation and this involves preparing for it by abstaining from prohibitions and increasing good deeds. Accepting that life is temporary and thread it cautiously.
  • Remembering death also make a person reflect on what they have prepared for tomorrow (hereafter). If death comes are we ready to die?  The thought of leaving this world makes one fearful but truth be told we are in this world for a short period and by remembering death we are conscious of our actions. So, an intelligent and wise person will have it at the back of their mind they can leave this world anytime. Strive to please His Rabb to be among the successful ones.
  • Remembering death is a journey towards detachment. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Remember (death) often the destroyer of pleasures” (Tirmidh̄i 2307) This results in the urge to prepare for the eternal life (hereafter) by performing good deeds. By doing this we gradually learn to be unattached to the false worldly desires

I am sure you are wondering how to implement this Hadith?

  1. Attend funerals. This is an environment that opens your eye to be reminded that life is short and temporary. Besides, there are rewards for attending the (janazah) funerals of a Muslim. Abu Huraira s رضي الله عنه reported: The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ said “Whoever follows the funeral of Muslim, in faith and seeking reward, and he remains with it until the prayer is offered and the burial ceremony is finished, then he will return with two great rewards. Each reward is like the size of mount Uhud. Whoever offers the funeral prayer and returns before the burial, then he will return with one great reward.” [Bukhari and Muslim]
  2. Visit graveyards. Similar to the above but different in the sense that, you do not need to visit the graveyard during a funeral. My first visit to the graveyard was unusual. I have always heard or saw it in movies/documentary. But actually going there was deep. Seeing how people were buried in 6 meters, so small. Everyone had the same grave space signifying equality. Taking no worldly possession with them. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un ‘Verily we belong to Allah, and verily to Him do we return.

(These are just 2 I can think of, feel free to add to it in the comment section)

POINT OF REFLECTION.

Don’t wait for a certain time to act upon this Hadith.

“Remembering death is not about denying the joy of living, on the contrary, it is about enjoying the freedom of flowing with life, knowing that it is a temporary residence”

Amira Ayad, Healing Body and Soul

We are constantly reminded when we hear of people dying. Death is inevitable. It can come to anyone, at any time. Irrespective of whether you are young or old, sick or healthy, rich or poor. No one can escape it. It is a reality that will catch up with us sooner or later. And the best thing we can do is to PREPARE. ‘But never will Allah delay a soul when its time has come. And Allah is Acquainted with what you do.’ Qur’an 63:11 – when the time of death comes, no one will be granted respite. (use as a quote) May Almighty Allah make it easy to implement this Hadith, make us die upon the faith and allow us to be reunited in Jannah where death is inexistence.

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BE YOU


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A heart-felt letter to remind you of what matters most. Get in the right mood by being in a comfortable space before reading.

“And one of His signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth, and the diversity of your languages and colours. Surely in this are signs for those of ˹sound˺ knowledge.” ( Qur’an 30:22)

‘You are a unique entity among creation: nothing is exactly similar to you, nor are you exactly similar to anything, because the creator had brought diversity to the creation’ (Anonymous)

It’s a new Gregorian calendar year and everyone is on the move to make the year as eventful as possible. Dreams and goals from last year have been pushed forward and everyone wants to achieve so much. New businesses here and there (if you are like me without a business you may feel you are lagging behind, but you’re not!) Marketers are capitalizing on the change people want to see in themselves and so many emails and posters are flying around on how to make this the year one of immeasurable breakthrough.  People are money driven, result oriented and in all honesty, I can tell that people are trying to work on themselves (personal development) Who doesn’t? But the way to go through it matters and that is what this letter seeks to address. I hope you are in a right and comfortable mood to keep reading.

 I am here to tell you and me to Calm Down. Take a deep breathe. And relax. Take it easy on yourself… one step at a time.

Calm Down. Take a deep breathe. And relax. Take it easy on yourself… one step at a time.

Investing in yourself in a prudent manner is a wise advice I can give to anyone reading. Investing in yourself does not cover finances alone – it includes anything you do to be a better person fi dunya wa aakhira: read books, listen to podcasts, use free tools out there before paying, widen your horizon by trying out new things and talking to people, keep learning… (The list is endless you can add to it by commenting. You never know who it may help.) Be careful and cautious of what you engage in and do not look for quick fixes. I want you to know and accept that the effect of change takes time but begins gradually. If you are a goal setter, set holistic goals to achieve them. And as you do all that do not lose hold of your priority.

As Muslims we must build our relationship with Allah in the journey of our personal development. Because without Him, we can’t grow. We can’t develop. We can’t achieve all our dreams, goals and aspirations. WE ARE IN NEED OF HIM TO GROW AND BE OUR TRUE SELF.

Remember this life is a means to an end. The end we all want to attain is JANNAH. So, use this life, set your goals, aspirations and make all you have as resources to get to the end.

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Here’s a short excerpt from a dear sister’s book.

“On the journey of being you, you must know that Allah comes first. You will never reach your full potential without the assistance of Allah. You will falter in your efforts of being your best-self when your heart is void of Allah. So to be your best self, you have to give importance to the Best.”

Kulsoom Kazim in Be You.

I love the wordings so much that I can’t do any analysis. It sums up perfectly and passes a compelling message to us.

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In being you, know that you must work on yourself. Don’t say “this is the way I am” when you know you have a negative trait. Continuously work on yourself and your mindset. Mindsets are very important and can serve as a barrier to limit us, thinking that we are incapable. Read about perspective of a Muslim here: PERSPECTIVE OF A MUSLIM

I’m keeping this really brief and I hope it makes you reflect and take things easy as you aspire to be a better person.

Here are some of the things you can do to build your relationship with Allah in your journey of personal development:

  • Find and Clarify your Whys. This is an important step to be done in anything you want to embark on. Ensure that whatever you are doing transcends beyond worldly reasons and that it is serving a greater purpose. Make your goals meaningful to you and that you want it to lead you to your End Goal – Jannah!. Be clear. Precise. And Intentional in what you do and why you do them. A practical way to get started is to preferably get a journal, write things you do and ask yourself why you do them. To aid anyone who wants to practice this I’ll be vulnerable to share one of my Whys. Why do you write? I write to teach, to inspire. To improve myself as a Muslim and carry others along in the journey. To earn Allah’s love. Make people see the beauty of Islam and aspire and really practice it. The value of my intention means that if it is right and sincere, Allah will accept it as an act of Ibadah! And I will be rewarded. Also, attaining Allah’s love is what I seek. (I typed it up strait from my journal, and I hope you will engage in some exercise too. If anyone needs some help with clarifying their whys you can send a private message here or here and I may be able to help)
  • Learn and practice detachment. As we pursue the dunya it may enter our heart, and this is not what we want as Muslims. Learn how to inculcate detachment as you grow. Simply put, “Detachment is not that you should own nothing, but that nothing should own you.” (Ali ibn Abi Talib رضي الله عنه) Hold materialistic things in your hand, not in your heart. They are temporary things and I implore you not to fill you heart with what is transience as it does not last. Whatever you have (be it intellect, materialism, appearance etc) is a gift from Allah. Know that it can be taken. In Sha Allah I hope to cover this topic in detail sometime.
  • Have a secret good deed between you and Allah ﷻ.
  • As you practice detachment, detach from result. When I learnt this, I must say it was challenging to implement, but Alhamdulillah, I am able to practice it more. What this means is that you don’t worry about the result of an action, rather you put in your best. It is a beautiful aspect of our deen to know that Allah rewards us for effort not result. Putting in your best effort is important to achieve anything. The result depends on Allah ﷻ. Don’t misinterpret this to not doing your best as you must put the work to be rewarded by Allah. Remember the Hadith on Tawakkul: tie your camel and put your trust in Allah. (Paraphrased: (Tirmidhi 2517) The two elements are intertwined, and you must have both. Do your best, use all you have and don’t forget that you must rely on your Rabb. Your Creator – Allah ﷻ.
  • Improve your personal relationship with Allah. Ask yourself, what can I do to improve in my religious obligations. Maybe you want to pray all your prayer at the right time, pray more nawafil, recite more Qur’an, pray Taajjud, fast more, give charity, reflect more etc. Write an action plan and begin to implement them

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A BEE OR A FLY?


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Be like a Bee that only lands on sweet things and skips the filthy. Don’t be like the fly that lands on only the wounds.

Re-read that quote again and continue. You will notice that the bee sees the filthy but skips it. So, do we as humans. We notice the good and bad in people, but the question is are you like the bee? What do you focus on? There is a saying that, what you focus on grows!

Be like the bee that only lands on sweet things by seeing the good in people. Know that everyone has something good in them no matter how bad you think they are. Be gentle like the bee when it lands on flowers, it does not destroy it. Be gentle like the bee in your interaction with others.

“Verily, gentleness is not in anything but that it beautifies it, and it is not removed from anything but that it disgraces it.” Musnad Ahmad 24417

FULFILLING LIFE’S PURPOSE


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This is an overdue post. It has been sitting in my word document for a long time 🙈 I enjoyed writing it and I pray you benefit from it!♥️


Alhamdulillah for being a Muslim. I believe we have it easy with identifying our life’s purpose for Allah ﷻ tells us in the Qur’an. Allah ﷻ says: ‘And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me.’  Qur’an 51:56 This is a verse we have heard countless times and it sums up the purpose of our creation. As Muslims we should be grateful for this direction because people search for meaning and purpose in life. They want to have a clear sense and purpose of their life. As Muslims we know the ‘WHY’ of our creation – to worship Allah! Research proves that people who have a sense of purpose are physically and mentally healthier and are more socially connected with their community. This is because to live a meaningful life we must understand the reason and purpose of living. Indeed, it is from the grace of Allah ﷻ that you are a Muslim 🙂

Allah ﷻ legislates worship upon us. We learn from the Seerah that when the Prophet ﷺ went on the Isra and Miraj, Allah ﷻ enjoined upon the Prophet ﷺ that we should pray 50 times a day. Following the instruction of Prophet Musa عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ the Prophet ﷺ returned to Allah ﷻ and it was reduced to 5 with the reward for praying 50 times a day. This exemplifies that we were created for worship. Imagine if we have to pray 50 times a day? We will not have time for the dunya. The question that then arises, how do we fulfil this purpose? What are the things we engage in to fulfil the purpose of our creation?

Most times we attribute Ibadah’s to fulfilling obligations or the so called “recognized” voluntary deeds and try to disassociate ourselves from engaging in worldly activities. The more a person is becoming more religious, the more they begin to feel disassociated from the dunya. They start getting resentful of worldly activities (which is a normal feeling) But, disassociating yourself from the dunya is quite impossible as the dunya is a place for us to fulfil this PURPOSE. It may be difficult and challenging for some people who believe that if the act they are engaging in is not “Worship” they will not engage in it.  However, we need to learn how to balance. Merge them together to fulfill our purpose because Islam is a complete way of life. It informs what we do in all spheres of our lives.

Many of you may be like me who at some point began to question whether they are fulfilling this purpose. I question myself for days, looked for answers until I learnt about finding purpose in everything. And that was it. It connected the dots for me because I learnt about how I should connect the things I do in the dunya to seek the pleasure of Allah ﷻ. (I will explain this in detail soon). And with this I had a complete change of perception with my approach to life. Alhamdulillah. (keep on reading to learn how I connected an hobby to fulfilling life’s purpose😉)

“Worshipping does not mean only praying and fasting. Every action in the life of a true Muslim is considered an act of worship, and it is the right intention and sincerity that turn a mere physical or social ritual into an act of worship and obedience to the Almighty. Having this clear picture in mind ensures that our short-term goals are always compatible with the ultimate purpose of our creation.”

The True Secret Dr. AMIRA AYAD

To fulfill this purpose of worship. It is not by constantly praying 24/7, not by constantly fasting. In essence we can be doing anything (halal) and it would serve as a means to fulfill our purpose. I once heard how a pious predecessor use to regard sleeping as an Ibadah. He would sleep with the intention to wake up energized to perform Taajjud and pray. This goes with reframing your mindset and working on your intentions. With this new framework seek reward in whatever you do. Whether it is helping someone, speaking to a friend, being a listening ear, cooking, serving your parents, being kind to people, studying, in your career, taking care of your families, shopping for the house etc.

How can we find purpose in everything (to turn our life activities into Ibadah)? By finding meaning and purpose in things we do daily, things we love doing and, in the people, around us. In Sha Allah by this we will strive to live a more fulfilled life. Ask yourself what do you do frequently that gives you a sense of meaning and purpose? And through this learn how to connect the things you do in the dunya to seek the pleasure of Allah ﷻ.

How can we learn to connect the dots?

We’ll do this through a popular hadith. Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه, reported: The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ said, “A man suffered from thirst while he was walking on a journey. When he found a well, he climbed down into it and drank from it. Then he came out and saw a dog lolling its tongue from thirst and licking the ground. The man said: This dog has suffered thirst just as I have suffered from it. He climbed down into the well, filled his shoe with water, and caught it in his mouth as he climbed up. Then he gave the dog a drink. Allah appreciated this deed, so he forgave him.” They said, “O Messenger of Allah, is there a reward for charity even for the animals?” The Prophet ﷺ said, “Yes, in every creature with a moist liver is a reward for charity.” (Bukhari and Muslim) This man connected his thirst to that of the dog, recognized it was Allah ﷻ that made it possible for him to quench his thirst and did the same for the dog.

Another great example is the hadith about Tawakkul. Umar ibn al-Khattab رضي الله عنه, reported: The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ said, “If you were to rely upon Allah with reliance due to him, he would provide for you just as he provides for the birds. They go out in the morning with empty stomachs and return full.” (Tirmidhi) Someone made an interesting connection by feeding birds and when she is asked she says: ‘don’t you want Allah ﷻ to provide for you as He provides for the birds’. By making this connection she found purpose in feeding the birds and consequently found fulfilment in feeding the birds with the hope of gaining reward from Allah ﷻ.

It may be difficult to begin with finding purpose in all you do and making that connection. But practice it with something you enjoy doing. For example, if you enjoy cooking and you are cooking for your family remember that the food you are cooking will make someone happy. And you will ease someone’s task. Just remember the Hadith on Allah ﷻ loves those who are beneficial to others and you will find pleasure and fulfilment in making the food. Attach whatever you do to seek the pleasure of your Rabb! By making this connection with the things you do in your life it will help you a great deal in finding purpose in all you do. It is by making that connection between what we do in the dunya and connecting them to seek the pleasure of Allah ﷻ that gives us a sense of meaning in our life.

And if you look around you, Almighty Allah ﷻ provides opportunities for you to fulfil this life purpose. I end with urging YOU to find purpose in everything YOU do.

I’d love to hear your thought on this post in the comment section and feel free to share how you make connection with ordinary things to gain the pleasure of Allah ﷻ

If you’ve enjoyed reading do share with friends and families. Till next time Fiammanillah 👋

WHAT IS YOUR EXCUSE?


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Please take time to watch the short video before reading and when you’re done keep on reading. The video is just 30 seconds long.

Blind man reciting the Quran with brail.

Now that you’re done watching, keep on reading 😊

I came across this video and it was really touching. It made me reflect a lot in terms of the beauty of the Qur’an. The way Almighty Allah ﷻ has made it easy to learn. ‘And We have certainly made the Qur’an easy for remembrance, so is there any who will remember?’ Qur’an 54:17 I know that people struggle, and I struggle as well with learning the Qur’an. It’s normal. But you know what, watching this video made me think: what excuse do I have not to learn the Qur’an?  An Hadith goes thus: “Whoever recites a letter from the Book of Allah, he will be credited with a good deed, and a good deed gets a ten-fold reward. I do not say that Alif-Lam-Mim is one letter, but Alif is a letter, Lam is a letter and Mim is a letter.’ [At-Tirmidhi]. This Hadith urges us to learn the Qur’an, recite it and informs us of the great reward for reciting it.

Moreover, “[T]he best amongst you is the one who learns the Qur’an and teaches it.” [Al-Bukhari]

Besides, there is the reward if you struggle to recite the Qur’an. To anyone struggling – don’t give up, for Allah ﷻ guarantees you a reward for your struggle.

Mother Aisha رضي الله عنهما reported: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “The one who is proficient in the recitation of the Qur’an will be with the honourable and obedient scribes (angels) and he who recites the Qur’an and finds it difficult to recite, doing his best to recite it in the best way possible, will have a double reward.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. This Hadith highlights that anyone who cannot recite the Qur’an fluently and is committed to read it with great effort will be given double reward; one for the difficulty encountered in reciting it, and another for reading it. So, I urge you to keep trying, keep learning, for Allah ﷻ will reward your effort.

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I thought it would be nice to share this video and my reflections over it. Many of us always claim to have excuses and reasons why we do not have time, such as: “I am still in school”, “I am busy”, “preoccupied with X and Y”, an endless list goes on. But I tell You, that you have to find that time. The Qur’an is important. It’s a priority in our lives and we must take time out to learn it. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “The believer who recites the Qur’an is like a citron whose fragrance is sweet and whose taste is delicious. A believer who does not recite the Qur’an is like a date-fruit which has no fragrance but has a sweet taste. The hypocrite who recites the Qur’an is like a colocynth whose fragrance is so sweet, but its taste is bitter. The hypocrite who does not recite the Qur’an is like basil which has no fragrance and its taste is bitter.’” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

If a blind person can learn the Qur’an through a brail, what more YOU, that you are able to see. Ask yourself what excuse do I have to say to Allah ﷻ?

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I say to myself before anyone else. What is your excuse? What is hindering you from learning the Qur’an?

I hope the video and this post inspires and reminds someone out there to take time, know the importance of the Qur’an. If you’ve abandoned the Qur’an, go back to it. It’s not too late. (Some of the Sahabas (companions) learnt the Qur’an when they were old.) If you intend to learn the Qur’an, start! Don’t wait till there is a time when you are less busy, because you never will. Take that step. Take that move and get closer to your creator. Learn the Qur’an. May Almighty Allah ﷻ make it easy for us to learn the Qur’an; make us people of the Qur’an; and raise our ranks through the Qur’an on the day of judgement.

The Prophet ﷺ said: “Read the Qur’an, for it will come as an intercessor for its reciters on the Day of Resurrection.” [Muslim]. “The one who was devoted to the Qur’an will be told on the Day of Resurrection: ‘Recite and ascend (in ranks) as you used to recite when you were in the world. Your rank will be at the last Ayah you recite.” [Dawud and Tirmidhi] The merit of committing the Qur’an to memory is mentioned in this Hadith. The word ‘ascend’ here means to rise in ranks in the Jannah. The more one remembers the Qur’an, the clearer and more distinct is his/her recitation of it, the higher would be the status that he/she will go on attaining through its blessings. Thus, this Hadith provides inducement for the remembrance of the Qur’an and tells us that its frequent recitation is a means to attain higher ranks in Jannah.

So, I urge us all to leave whatever excuses we have and set our priorities right. Find that time and be committed. I have heard the importance of learning the Qur’an after the Fajr salah. You can start with that. If you are going to pay someone to teach you, take it up and learn the Qur’an.

Here are some practical tips to apply to ease your Qur’an learning

  • Make dua ﷻ to Allah and keep your intentions pure. Be sincere in your memorization.
  • Have a teacher. This will put you on check. But remember most of the work will be done by you. Your teacher can only teach and aid your learning. You must find time to revise.
  • Be consistent with your pace of learning. Ensure you learn something every day. Be as regular as possible.
  • Have a routine and time you learn. Some people learn early in the morning, some in the afternoon and others at night. Have a place you learn and stick to a Mushaf.
  • Repeat, repeat and repeat what you are learning.
  • Listen a lot to your memorization. Pick one reciter you love and stick to that person.
  • Try to recite what you are learning in the Salah.
  • Have time to recite what you have learnt previously so that you do not forget. Revision is important.
  • Remember consistency is the key!

May Almighty Allah ﷻ make this journey to knowing Him easy for all of us and accept our deeds. May He make us people who love Him and do things to draw closer to Him. Amen! AS SALAM ALAIKUM WARAMATULLAH WABARAKATU.

Is there any tip you have applied to aid your Qur’an learning or one you have learnt? Please share in the comment section to make others benefit from it. If you have found this post beneficial please do share with others. Till next time Fi Ammanillah!

I leave you with this short clip on the effect of the Qur’an in the heart!

DUA OF AN OPPRESSED


Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and Allah.  [Bukhari]

Prophet Muhammed ﷺ

My name is Bee and I will be narrating to you today about an incident that happened in my life. The event I am about to share happened during the COVID-19 pandemic. I decided to share this story because I feel it is important that people know how to use their tongue.  

I was in my sitting room watching the TV when my phone rang. A colleague from work called to inform me of a shocking news – the death of a co-worker. He died due to contracting coronavirus. I was a bit indifferent, unsure how to react. Immediately I supplicated to Allah ﷻ, expressing gratitude for my dua being answered. I am sure you are wondering what happened?  What dua did I supplicate to Allah for?

I remember vividly when the pandemic started and there was panicking at the workplace. I heard this colleague of mine who I will refer to as Sid, telling another colleague: ‘I pray that Bee (me) gets the virus and dies from it’. I am sure he did not know I heard him. Immediately I heard this, I was sad, scared, worries, distressed afraid of what I heard. I went straight to my musallah (prayer place at work) raised my hands to Allahﷻ and said I wish him the same, I wish him what he wishes me. I supplicated against him 😦

Sid has always given me a hard time at work, always complains of how I dress, what I do, about me having a prayer place at work, he complains when I am praying and he constantly makes my life unbearable in the workplace. My employers have tried to caution him to be respectful and tolerant, but he doesn’t listen.

Making dua was all I could do to pacify myself and remove my worries. I did not tell anyone else of what he did, not to my employers or family. I complained only to Allah ﷻ for comfort and that was it. It was few weeks later I received a call to hear that Sid died from coronavirus.

After I received the news I called the sister I was living with and narrated what happened to her. I asked her do you think I made the right dua? And she responded saying from what you told me he is an oppressor and you basically just wished him what he wished you.

PURPOSE OF SHARING THIS STORY: Oppression is something Allah ﷻ has forbidden and He disassociate Himself from. Abu Dharr رضي الله عنه reported: The Messenger of Allahﷺ said: ‘Allah the Exalted said: O my servants, I have forbidden oppression for myself and I have made it forbidden among you, so do not oppress one another’ Sahih Muslim. As Muslims we should be cautions of our actions and avoid oppressing others. Allah ﷻ deals with oppressors at the right time and punishes them. Look at the story of Prophet Musa عَلَيْهِ ٱلسَّلَامُ, and Firawn. The story of Abu Jahl persecuting the Muslims. Bilal رضي الله عنه  and Ummayah Ibn Khallaf… and the list goes on. Eventually Allah ﷻ punished the oppressor for transgressing. It may take time and to anyone being oppressed in any manner hold fast unto Allah ﷻ for YOU will one day be victorious. In Sha Allah you will look back and express gratitude to Allah ﷻ for lessons you learnt through the process.

After listening to Sister Bee’s story, I will like to expand on 3 points.

The importance of Tawakkul and complaining to Allah. For any worry, problem, issue You have, Turn to Allah! ﷻ Bee did not confront Sid nor report Sid to her employers, she did not tell anyone what she heard. Bee cried and turned unto Allah ﷻ and He ﷻ responded to her. She did only one thing – DUA. She made dua at her weak point. And the Prophet ﷺ guarantees that there is no barrier between the supplication of the oppressed and Allahﷻ (paraphrased) Sahih Bukhari so, whenever you are down, at your weakest point turn to Allah, cry to Him, talk to Allah ﷻ before anyone else because He is As-Sami (The All Hearing)  Al-Basir (The All Seeing) and have the conviction He will respond because He is Al Mujib (The Responsive).

Wishing good for others. What do you wish for others? What comes out of your tongue? We should be careful and conscious of how we use our tongue? The Prophet ﷺ said: ‘no Muslim servant supplicates for his brother behind his back but that the angel says: ‘And for you the same.’ (Muslim) This is an angel wishing you what you wish someone else. So, wish good for others and don’t use your tongue against yourself.

Avoid oppression. ‘Indeed, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and forbids immorality and bad conduct and oppression…’ Qur’an 16:90 . This is something Allah ﷻ disassociates Himself from and The Prophet ﷺ enjoins us to prevent oppression by ‘help[ing] your brother, whether he is an oppressor or is oppressed.’ It was said, “O Messenger of Allah, we help the oppressed, but how do we help an oppressor?” The Prophet said, “By seizing his hand.” In another narration, the Prophet said, By restraining him or preventing him from committing injustice, for that is how you support him. Sahih Bukhari and Muslim

POINT OF REFLECTION: when reading this story what came to your mind? We should look within ourselves and check whether we have in any way, shaped or form oppressed someone. It’s very easy to point fingers at others but look within and see if the problem comes from YOU. 

That’s it for now. I hope you enjoyed reading and have learnt from this story, if you found it insightful share with someone who will enjoy it as you do. Are there any lessons you learnt from this post please share in the comment section below.

TRUE LIFE STORIES


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I hope you are excited as we are 🥳

Introducing a new category into the blog. It’s called TRUE LIFE STORIES. 💯

The aim of adopting this initiative is for us to be able to relate with others. Learn from what people have gone through – their challenges and how they reacted in light of the Qur’an and Sunnah.

It is hoped that this will provide an opportunity for us to look inward into our actions and be conscious of Allah ﷻ. We constantly learn from people and sharing life experiences on this blog is a medium through which we hope will encourage us to lead our lives to please Allah ﷻ.

All the stories shared on this platform are completely anonymized and cannot be attributed personally to anyone. If you would like to share your story or life event in a way to inspire others. Please get in touch. We would love to tell your story. ♥️

PS: In Sha Allah a story will be released this coming Friday. Make sure to subscribe by entering your email below 👇 to receive immediate notifications when a new post is uploaded. Don’t forget to share with friends and families too. 😌

Till then Fi Amanillah.

The journey so far…


Alhamdulillah! Re-reading the article on Self-reflection this morning brought my awareness to the fact that it’s exactly one year ago that the first post was published on this blog 😊

THIS IS A TEAM ACHIEVEMENT.

I wished we could have generated more content and I know that we could. We had big plans when we decided to start. But we plan and Allah ﷻ plans and He ﷻ is the best of planners.

We plan and Allah ﷻ plans and He ﷻ is the best of planners.

Looking at the amount of articles we were able to write in the last year made me realise more could have been done. However, this is the time to celebrate and not undermine the work of me and my team.

Together we have written  6 articles, 1 poem: Self-reflection, Perspective: positive mindset, The role models the youths in the cave, Making the most of the first 10-days of Dhul-Hijjah, Iman dip: what to do?, The Most Beloved to Allah, and My Hijab.

I would like to say, writing this blog has helped in so many ways. One of which is that, it has improved my understanding of the deen. As I try my best to practice what is published.

So now, I express my gratitude to my team who do not want to be mentioned. (In any project the people behind the scene do a lot than people know) They have been supportive! They proofread, edit, assist with the content ideas etc. This could not have been done without you all. May Almighty Allah increase you in wisdom, knowledge and understanding.

Lastly, to my readers. A big thank YOU for engaging with our content, for reading, commenting and sharing. I hope it has had a positive impact in your life?

If you are new to this blog welcome to the community and please take time to read and engage with the contents.

Jazak Allah Khair for taking time out to read and In Sha Allah expect more content! We hope to produce more before next Ramadan … until then Fi Amanillah. We pray that Allah ﷻ accept this work as an act of Ibadah.